Son, I love you, I really do...

My Jaden turns 27 months 1 week today. 

With greater control of his hands, he is able to do more tasks for himself. He is able to feed himself (with a little support from me), to help dress and undress himself, to brush his own teeth (I brush them first, then hand him the brush for him to do by himself). What he needs from me are the encouragement and plenty of opportunities to practice.

There are still some resists, but he is often cooperative. For example, he held it tighter and turned away when I asked him to give me back the object in his hand. I consistently repeated "give it to me please" and showed my hand in front of him, he would return it after my 3rd or 4 th attempt. We do lots of role plays, I make sure that he understand the meaning of sharing toys, taking turns and caring for others feelings. I encourage him to use words to express what he wants, make him to repeat after me the needed sentences, word by word. He loves to be around other children. He loves to make me tell him plenty of stories about everything in his sight, whether a fan, an air con or even the ceiling. 

Jaden is still co-sleeping with us. He will sleep in his own room when he is 4 or whenever he is ready for it. Sleeping alone in our cozy, familiar room won't scare an adult a bit, a night in a museum or a strange cottage deep in a forest might be a different story. To an infant or a toddler, our nice, cozy home might be a full of adventures land with giant things and loud noises. The child has to be taught to be independent. Yes, with appropriate tasks for your child's abilities at his age, not by CIO (cry it out) - letting babies get distressed is a practice that can damage children and their relational capacities in many ways for the long term. The film is rated for a reason, there are different appropriate perceptions for different ages. Inappropriate teachings lead to wrong lessons and harmful, unexpected side affects. Those little people' s undergoing rapid brain growth and soul immune systems will be built strongly if they receive enough trust and a sense of security. Thus, they will grow up to be a fine person, full of love, independent and trustworthy. 




https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out